Sorry to hear that and my sympathies to your family.
What about this. My grandfather was one of the real old-school gentlemen. He was a devout catholic. He went to the same church in Fitzroy for 80+ years, except for the few years he served in the Army overseas in WW2, and the last couple of years of his life when he was in a nursing home.
After he retired, he also volunteered for work at that same church helping them with their book-keeping etc. They would have seen him there literally (and unlike many BBers, I know what that word means) every day of the year for 20+ years.
When he died, I asked for one of the priests from that church to preside over his funeral Mass at the nursing home in the adjacent suburb (Northcote) and/or at the burial in the next adjacent suburb at Melbourne general cemetery.
The answer was no to both requests. They could not be bothered.
So much for service. So much for loyalty. So much for compassion.
Of course protecting paedophiles is inexcusable. But failing to support families like Soulnet described, or my grandfather’s case does nothing to enhance their case. No wonder so many people are turning away.