I’ve been really interested in this stuff lately.
I agree that science shouldn’t be ignored when it comes to health care, but ss far as I know I have been able to have access to mental health care and physical preventative health services for as long as I have been alive (1977)…
When exactly have feminists blocked me (and all men) from mental health care and physical preventative health services?
Out of interest (rather than to challenge you), could you direct me to any sources for this? Because it’s really messed up.
And when you say feminists, do you mean the average person who identifies as a feminist, like Jobe Watson, or our wives and girlfriends, or do you mean the extreme feminists that think any women who get married are sell-outs?
Personally, I think feminism is generally a great movement and that their should be no legal or cultural barriers to what women can achieve and contribute, and that men should help promote equality.
Biology tends to throw up some barriers in some areas (e.g. men tend to be physically stronger, and different hormones, etc), but education and being civilised should see that these traits are not used to exploit women or hold them back from achieving.
As for toxic masculinity, well, by definition it isn’t good. I don’t think men should strive to be masculine, I just think it’s important to be “you”. Obviously that can be clouded by how we are nurtured, but no one should have to “do man stuff” if they don’t want to, or be prevented from “girl stuff” if they are drawn to it - or forced to do girl stuff if they aren’t into it.
I’ve got 2 young boys 6 & 3 and they will wrestle and fight to play (often involving tears but then they will both willingly get straight back into it laughing). They also don’t mind watching Barbie cartoons or walking around in their Mum’s shoes or playing with her makeup (though I think they do it because it’s “funny” - which indicates to me they are aware of the gender roles - rather than because they are drawn to high heels or want to accentuate their femininity. If they are “making fun of Mum” by dressing like her then that’s not PC is it?), and they both have girl-friends that they have play-dates with. But overall they are very masculine and when they talk about who they want to be like it’s either me (Dad) or Batman or Black Panther or Captain America, or Heppel or Walla.
Anyway, I’m cool with them being “masculine”, but obviously we want to avoid the toxic part by educating them and ingraining a respect for women, but it can be a minefield when everyone has an opinion on what is right and what is wrong (and I’m sure it was an issue back in 1977 too, and has progressed a long way since).