Relationships are the hardest thing to come to terms with when they are out of balance. I sometimes call them relationsh1ts. Nothing is easier than being on your own, not having to share, to please others, not having to do stuff you don’t want to do but at the end of the day its nice to curl up beside a warm body and have an arm around you. Relationships are supposed to be two way streets but very often they are not but none of us are perfect. We are all in this together. Add kids to the equation and its even more complicated.
Sharing parts of you with each other and being able to expose your vulnerability requires courage. All of us, we are only as strong as our weakest link which is about feelings and being able to express them. To be listened to and to be heard. Having an open heart is the hardest thing when everything feels like its falling to bits. Remember with gratitude the good stuff and be thankful for those times.
Developing co-operation, compassion and compromise. Isn’t love all of those things and more. All are learned skills and if we don’t learn them from our parents or whoever we have lived with as a kid, we have to learn how they work sometime. Relationships are one big expertiment. Feelings are also a kind of glue which holds relationships in togetherness in a safe place. If I cannot trust you I will not share that part of myself with you but there will be an emptiness or a hunger inside me waiting to be filled. Do not give up on yourself, do not give up on what you believe is possible.