I agree with all of that and thanks for posting. You’re right that he’s probably grown up with it and he could have loved it as you do.
What about the fact though that it’s not just mates hanging ■■■■ on mates, it’s mates hanging ■■■■ on mates with a national audience listening in? So the ‘humiliation’ factor could have been amplified?
You’re right though that we will never ever know
Yeah, dunno. I would think someone who’s been in media that long would be able to rationalise that that’s just part of the show.
But maybe not.
I’d be extremely wary of pointing the finger at the guys he worked with.
Everyone who ever met the guy - let alone close colleagues & mates - will be doing a life time’s worth of soul searching about whether they could or should have done something different or better.
They absolutely don’t need any more guilt right now.
This could be happening to almost anyone in any workplace in the world, and it’s just fucken ■■■■■■ for everyone involved.
Yeah absolutely right. I’m certainly not apportioning any blame, because that’s pure speculation and would be very very unfair.
Their life is that to a degree. The National audience bit. A lot of what they do and have done is. I know these guys aren’t terribly popular in other threads but they are intelligent and clearly were all great mates for 30 odd years (Lyon and Frawley) so I trust that they are doing what is a good thing. Importantly and just a guess, but I reckon that his wife Anita and girls would have ticked it off.
Danny Frawley could off walked away from the limelight at anytime, yes he was made to look the idiot in the media shows Dunstall fed off it. I am sure Danny was aware of the scripted segments.
What gets me is he couldn’t get away from football when he had the choice, they say he loved being back at the farm etc, so why not eat some humble pie and just be a father/husband/farmer.
I am sure there is more to it as everyones private life has more than what is exposed, but this guy was loved by everyone, I even watched after the bounce just for Spud
That’s handy to know mate, thanks for sharing.
Just don’t take it out on painey…
My mental health has taken a dive in recent months due to a worsening of chronic illness. After 4 operations in less than 12 months and little to no progress i started to get the beginnings of depression. Having suffered from a major depressive episode 10 years ago and relative good mental health throughout that period I think I became a little complacent looking after me. Reading through the thread has been so helpful in reminding me of the strategies I need to stay mentally healthy - sleep (very difficult with my illness but make up for it with naps in the afternoon), diet and exercise. And kindness in this thread. Thanks Blitz.
The good news tonight is I had a 5th operation and am home in no pain. I literally haven’t lived without pain for so long I’ve forgotten that this is normal.
That last bit is fantastic news. You deserve it.
Most decent thread on the internet.
Take care all.
been doing alot of reading and watching stuff on these 2 topics and how they interact and or affect mental health, it’s actually really interesting and somewhat scary.
Sugar is the devil too.
I don’t do a journey or diary type thing, but i do notice when i’m overthinking things that the same, writing it down, gettting it out of my head seems to lessen it’s importance, whether it be an sms that i never send, or email, or even post on here, whether it gets sent on not, just the getting it out seems to do some good.
It’s funny looking back all the little cliches on how to try and cope with your mental health that you either get told early on or just pick up, that generally one just scoffs at and thinks as if that will help, actually do.
Fasting works if you wish to remain calm and improve mental clarity.
I cannot recommend it highly enough.
Fast every day so that you are genuinely hungry. At first you might get cranky, but after doing it for a week its just that awesome looking forward to a good meal feeling.
And ensure the food you eat breaking fast is low in sugar.
Im weighing the same I was in my late 20s in my mid 40s.
Its a great mindset too, no stupid silly diets based on what you cant eat. Just go easy on the sugars and junk food.
I also find that it regulates my sleep. I’m less inclined to eat sugar (which gives me a major buzz) and then I go to sleep earlier and wake up fresher.
There is actually science behind this. I’m not the one to explain it in a proper scientific context as it was explained to me probably 10 years ago, and I’m not that smart to begin with.
But it’s something about transferring your thought(s) from your right brain to your left brain (or other way around), which lessons the intensity of them. I.e. it goes from being a ‘fact’ in your head to a story on the page / screen.
During my worst period ever, my daily journal rants helped an incredible amount, but crikey I wouldn’t want to read them now.
Yeah there’s a study somewhere about to do lists and if you write tings down it fires the same chems as actually completing the tasks listed. I figure it’s this for me. I tend to write a lot of ideas I have no intention of working on.
It could also be transferring feelings from “early” brain to the language/communication capable “newer” brain.
Coffee is nasty stuff too - I leave it for a couple of days then the dam wall bursts and I’ll down 4 - 5 and feel shocking next day. I don’t drink anymore which helped even less when I’d indulge.
I had a succession of broken relationships over two years. alcohol would numb the pain briefly then turn me low as low and feelings of rejection would be like this sad bottomless pit that just swallowed you whole.
I’ve got one now, two kids and even though there’s a bit of dependence there she pulled me together to the point I’ve got good employment which I couldn’t maintain previously. although those feelings of anxiety and depression still remain they’re managed the correct way.
It helps she’s a councillor- I’m actually throwing a surprise party today for no other reason that I’m appreciative beyond anything.
Some of the tools we’ve worked out for me is living in the moment, and they’re made comical as that’s part of my coping strategy. the self doubt is trivialised by calling it Squatting Neville in honour of rik mayall, and when I need dragging into the moment I just think about how much lint I’ve got in my belly button at the time.
Glad to hear that! I have a journal full of ideas on a documentary I want to shoot (including a shot -by-shot breakdown of the opening sequence), episode-by-episode topics for a podcast, and a full 3 pages on photographs I would take to document street life in San Francisco.
Haven’t even gotten started on anything!
I have my bomberblitz posts for 15 years sadly to remind me of it 
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Failing that a few posters around here.
Yep there’s a zillion ways to do reflection, and they all more or less work.
Someone (who makes it their business to know this stuff) told me there’s research which shows it’s basically triggering the same part of the brain that regular prayer does, which has the same positive effect. So there is some good in religion after all.
good to see you have had a good pain free day hope they last. i count my good days but not many nowadays as there used to be. love your posting and wish you all the best