Sadly, it is all too common these days that HR aren’t there for the employee just the employer.
It amazes me, that the link between an employee that feels supported/respected and loyalty, is not recognised. My motto - happy supported employees are very productive employees that make me look good.
No probs mate, no criticism was inferred.
They’re definitely within their rights. There is no “mental health” policy here, as is probably the case with a lot of companies.
What they can also do is choose when to exercise said rights. In doing so they’ve made their regard clear. I’m not the only one they’ve done things like this to either.
I wouldn’t say they’re generally jerks. I’d probably explain it as “always ■■■■■■■ ■■■■■”. At every turn.
Edit: Instead of medical certs (most of us know a GP isn’t of any value on the day you’re feeling symptoms of mental health issues), I have provided them with detailed notes from my former psych about my condition, at their request, in lieu of certs.
A stat dec will substitute fine for a med cert.
p.s. Hope to see you back in the DJ thread someday. 
Unfortunately some people are just ■■■■■■■ clueless. You think in this day and age it would be less common.
The stuff you’ve given them sounds more than sufficient. Challenge them on principle and then leave anyway.
Na. I’ve taken annual leave on days after I know I will be out late
Unbelievably poor way to treat an employee. Do people really think that this will result in productivity or culture gains?
It’s as dumb as dogshit, backward and thankfully a process belonging in a bygone era within my employment circle.
You deserve much better. Hope you find it.
Thanks all.
I’m not overly affected by it, just astounded.
Ah hell, I feel for you.
For what it’s worth, one mate of mine who suffers severe depression/anxiety had a similar reaction to the whole pressure for a big wedding. She ended up heading off to Vegas with her fiance and a friend on either side, and getting married by an Elvis impersonator.
Never forget a wedding is about you and your partner. You don’t owe anything to anyone else. If the whole formal ceremony and sit-down multi-course dinner etc thing is giving you trouble, consider just making a holiday or a party, or a fun trip out of it. Might help make the prospect less daunting and stressful for you.
you should have emailed work at 6am saying you wont be in.
the worst thing is if you haven’t shown up or called to 3:30pm they may have been worried something happenned to you.
I view it the same way of RSA in alcoholic serving premises, everyone preaches the ■■■■ out of it, until their bottomline is affected, then it’s plow them up and get rid of them, and if you get busted with way too intoxicated people on premises, tis’ someone elses fault.
most companies bullshit about looking after workers, their mental health etc etc, but it’s just empty hollow gestures as when push comes to shove, their own interests will always come first, esp with ■■■■■■ people in charge.
It is quite astounding, and very risky by your employer.
You’ve previously informed them of your medical condition, warned that these sorts of absences may occur, then they’ve provided you with a warning, without any procedural fairness (by failing to ask you to respond to the allegations) due to an absence of the sort you warned them about previously.
They’d want to tread pretty carefully. Keep us in the loop if things do ever escalate any further.
Would have been far more convenient fr them, I’m sure. And for me. Sometimes people aren’t in a state to perform these tasks. Which they’re aware of.
And I can assure you that this isn’t a company that gives a toss about wellbeing.
Not so the company, but maybe employees in your division might care.
I couldnt call in sick for an hour the other week, due to had to do school drop off and then feed twins when i got home first. And I had a colleague send me a message on messenger in the mean time checking up on me.
Getting a official warning is a bit extreme too in my opinion, if thats the first time you have done it. You would think they may show some sympathy.
our work leave system is you can have one day off without a certificate but if you have 2 in a row you need medical certificate. So most people probably only have a day here and there, and not have a couple off days and get better.
I think in any business and most definitely one large enough to have dedicated HR staff an employee in a situation such as Dingus should be supported.
He has been very honest with regard to his illness and they haven’t supported him. Based on his write up, and obviously taking his word without their response, they have disenfranchised an employee and given colleagues absolutely no reason to trust them with this info should they find themselves in similar circumstances. Terrible culture.
Earlier in my issues I was struggling with Anxiety, getting on the train for 1 hour every morning was a real struggle. Instead of allowing me time to work from home which I can easily do my manager from Sydney blunt as told me I should quit and go stack shelves at woolworths if its such an issue.
I feel for you Dingus, sounds like you have a horrible work situation. As I said if you broke your leg playing footy no one would blink an eye, even if you didn’t call until 3.30pm
Some days I just don’t understand the point of it all. This is one of those days.
Ups and downs Ice, it’ll turn mate. Hope it picks up for you.
That sucks mate. I hate that feeling. I get really disconnected on some days too. Yell out f you need a chat.
Stay strong mate, definitely had that feeling…just yesterday even.
You tear me down
And then you pick me up
You take it all
And still it’s not enough
You try to tell me
You can heal me
But I’m still bleeding
And you’ll be the death of me
RED (band)
The battle with self can be hard, and really that’s is all it is for me, my past and what happened to me and how it forms the way I think now. Changing the very core of what I believe about myself has never been something I could do, the foundation was layed down when I was a child, then the building was erected during the young and developing years. Since adulthood it has been a challenge to reject that and push forward. Sometimes it is almost too much. I don’t believe i would ever suicde, but the despair can be…crippling and oppressive.