Tenants Union was impossible to get on to, phone lines were simply too busy.
Got some legal advice from my local Community Legal Centre. They have advised that just because we were issued with a Notice to Vacate by Thursday we do not actually have to comply with it.
I’ve been told that if theu want us out of the property they need to take the matter to VCAT and provide them with compelling evidence as yo why the house is to unsafe for us to stay in it.
I have sent th agent an email this afternoon saying that we are not vacating by Thursday and that I understand the next step is they apply to VCAT for possession of the property. I have suggested instead that they allow us to remain in the property until 10th Jan (their office is closed between 23rd Dec - 10th Jan) as this will at least allow us to have a normal Christmas with the kids and a chance to pack and move stuff into storage if necessary, and clean the property and fix some of the issues they have raised.
In the meantime I’ve applied for 6 properties, have received a rejection from one and am waiting to hear back from the others. I’ve offered 3 months rent in advance and bond and I still don’t have much hope.
I’m really not in a good way. I’m just completely burnt out. 10 months of being left to do about 90% of the parenting of 5 kids, getting to put up with my ex dropping in to ■■■■■ about her boyfriend when they fight but not actually help with the parenting. Listening to her complain about always been broke when she hardly contributes to the financial commitments of 5 kids, and her ■■■■■ and moan about her lack of work life balance when she works 3 days a week and then does whatever the ■■■■ she wants with her boyfriend or friends in her spare time because she pretty much ignores the existence of her kids is doing my head in.
I could probably cope with all of this if the younger kids weren’t always so excited and happy to see her when she deems them worthy of her ■■■■■■■ time, while being disrespectul little ■■■■■ to my face day in and day out. At least the oldest sees through her bullshit.
Salvocare will provide us with emergency accomodation if we require it, which at this time of year would mean a dodgy motel room somewhere. I’d jump at the chance if I didn’t have to take the kids with me, just to get a break.
From what you have said in this thread, you are doing an unbelievable job in managing this. Hang in there.
From a mental health perspective I’ve also had the toughest year or so of my 53 years, due to separation on top of a spinal injury that I’ll never fully recover from (I’m fully mobile at least). It’s been horrible and I’ve recently been told I don’t have a job next year due to severe funding cuts (at least a dozen others in the same boat in my workplace). Still, it pales in comparison to your situation.
Again, I wish you all the best. Things will turn around for you eventually.
Only a few months ago, most of us had plenty of time on our hands to enjoy the little things…. And plenty of time to do nothing at all.
I feel like a lot of things are trying to be squeezed into the last few weeks of the year. Christmas gathering, work break ups, birthday parties, Christmas shopping, running around to 4 different venues on Christmas Day, dealing with family conflict, etc etc.
It’s overwhelming and too much. I hope we don’t go back to aimlessly rushing through our lives again, like pre-covid.
Best thing we did as a family was ■■■■■■■ off the multiple family christmases plus the eastern European in-laws on Xmas eve. And putting our foot down on presents for adults. Just one KK, simples.
Was just building up anxiety toting around the 2 little Pillses plus the dog, with a 40 minute drive in between.
Just double checking you’re getting professional mental health support? You’ve got an enormous amount of stress in your life. Sounds like you’re doing a mighty job.
Jesus mate you have 5 kids!! I am doing my best with 1 that’s not even mine ( helping someone who made a mistake). I don’t know how you could even cope with that many, in fact in the dysfunctional relationship you have with your ex, this is not a good outcome for the children.
I really feel sorry for your children and you, this doesn’t help me saying this, but mate you must be suffering big time, some how through this storm you need to get grounded, do you have parents/ family that may be able to help?
I have been very fortunate in my career. I was international sales manager for a Melbourne Company, and the MD wanted to open an office in every country in the world. So I got to visit virtually every Nation, even though there was no market for our products in many.
I once was thinking of doing a travel guide for business people, as I reckon I had been in more places than most. Though maybe an international guide to brothels would have sold more.
It’s a pain in the bumhole and you probably have better things to do but if you’re ever inclined, I’d like to hear about your journey to how you got to here.
Does anyone really struggle at the start of a holiday? I find myself anxious and listless for quite a while. I think it’s just my body just winding down, but it’s pretty annoying when you just want to slip into holiday mode