Ah sorry mate. DM me if you want to chat about it xx
Hooray for impending homelessness.
Had a call from our real estate agent last Friday, âwe need to do an urgent inspection on Tuesday, some legislation changed recently and we are concerned the house would no longer be considered safe for inhabitation and we might need to issue you with a 7 day notice to vacate. But donât worry too much about that, there is wiggle room there and we arenât just going to kick you out if you have nowhere to go and we will work with.â
Inspection was this afternoon. Within an hour I get a phone call from the real estate agent âweâve spoken to Consumer Affairs and yes the property is unsafe for inhabitation and Iâm going to have to issue you an immediate notice to vacate tomorrow. But this a good thing, this is good for you and the kids because the house is unsafe.â
Ummm I think Iâll take an unsafe roof over the kids heads over no roof over their heads thanks lady.
It is okay though because apparently I can just call the Salvos and they can find magically find us some emergency accommodation.
I wouldnât want hear her bad news then. Right before Christmas as well. This is terrible timing. Fingers crossed something shows up and soon for you. Hang in there and stay strong. Know that you have people here on BBlitz that are concerned for your welfare.
Can anyone help out or know of some emergency accommodation?
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Sorry to hear it big E. I suggest you seek out the closest community legal centre and contact the Tenants Union for advice about what to do next. Based on my experience with estate agents and Consumer Affairs, the former didnât make any calls and the latter wouldnât respond in less than an hour.
In fact, you could contact Consumer Affairs yourself and lodge a complaint. Make some noise, estate agents hate noise and hate being confronted with their own BS
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What are they saying the problem with the house is? Is there something safety-wise youâve complained about? It seems more than a bit odd that a legislation change could trigger this. It may be an excuse to get you out and a new tenant in at a higher rate.
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I donât disagree that there are safety concerns with the property.
There is a literally a hole in the bathroom floor where the tiles were broken (before we moved) and then the floor boards underneath have rotted through.
There is clear termite damage. The place is unsafe but not more than it was 2 months ago or even 2 years ago.
Legislation did recently change (some time this year - no idea what or why), we had to have gas and electricity people come and inspect then make some changes. Thankfully not as bad as a roof though.
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Urgh. Well, the landlord clearly should have fixed it years ago, the â â â â â â , but if thatâs the state of the place youâre not going to get anywhere fighting them on that, except maybe to give you a bit of extra time to find something else.
With recent changes to the Residential Tenancies Act the changes are due to come into effect on March 29th of 2021. Mandatory electrical and gas safety checks will be required every two years with a report being produced containing the gas plumber and electricians licence details who conducted the tests.
Now, who do you think will end up paying for these checks? Hint: Not the landlord.
ha the cynic in me is like they are probably going to fix the issue now to sell the house while the market is still hot and itâs only an issue to get fixed now cos itâll cost them money on the sale of the house.
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Mate, itâs really the last thing you need right now and 7 days is nowhere near enough time, especially at this time of year. If you were in SE Qld Iâd seriously consider helping you out for a few weeks, but Iâm fairly certain youâre in Vic/Melbourne. Maybe worth trying legal aid to find out exactly where you stand, if you havenât already.
Best of luck and hang in there.
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Please contact the Vic tenants union ASAP. You definitely have options.
https://tenantsvic.org.au/advice/common-problems/notice-to-vacate/
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My partner and I had our first bub approximately 4 weeks ago. I think she might be suffering from some post partum depression.
She is getting linked into support groups and has a good maternal care nurse.
I do my share of the feeds, am doing all the cooking and lots of cleaning etc to let her focus on bubs. I change nappies, pay the bills, work etc.
She is really amazing at taking care of the baby but she is so angry, irritable and snaps at me constantly. I donât react and remain calm amd just keep being supportive and encouraging.
Its seriously wearing me down and I try to not tske her behaviour personally. Iâve read so many articles about this form of depression but it does not make it any easier.
I just dont think anything I do is enough in her eyes atm. I feel she is just angry at everything. Any how riding it outland remaining calm. Was wondering if others have been through this ?
Havenât been through it myself but have a couple of mates that have experienced similar things.
It may be worth whole broaching some counselling/ support as a couple to try and get yourselves through it. From what Iâve heard often one partner doesnât even realise the impact they are having on the other partner as they are so focused on their newborn and wanting to do the best job for them.
Sometimes a simple discussion can resolve it, but I could imagine there are probably seldom âsimple discussonsâ during this time, and addtional support may be needed.
Probably doesnât help all too much, but youâre definitely not alone in this. Youâll get through it 
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Just keep up what you are doing and stay calm. It will pass; may take another month and it is tough, but it will pass and she will be the girl you remember again. If it gets too tough, and if it is possible get your Parents, her Parents and other family involved. Counsellors are great but Family can be the glue she needs.
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Couples counselling/therapy has been really beneficial for my wife and I. We wouldnât have our now 8month old if we hadnât gone and got the little bit of extra help.
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suggest she goes see a GP about it.
or if your too scared, or think she may not want to hear it from you, ask someone else to suggest it.
sounds like your doing all the right things re baby.
only other thing would be to ask for some you and baby only time -park/ walk etc, so she can go and do some things she used to do without having to ask you. -facial, eyebrows, hair appointments, gym? etc.
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Yes. Twice.
PMs are open.
Would she be open to the udea of you suggesting she speaks to her GP? Or is there someone you trust who could?
Our first is 10 months old and as we live far away from family we have basically no support. Itâs exhausting, and of course rewarding too.
One thing you have said peaked my interest. Doing all the cooking and cleaning and letting her focus on the baby. One thing I didnât expect was that my partner missed doing some of those things. So our routine turned into me doing bath time in the evenings and she would have time to herself away from the baby. I think that 30-45 minute window in the evening has been really good for her sanity. During that time she will usually be tidying, cooking dinner etc but even when sheâs doing that it feels like a break to her.
4 weeks in is so early and I know we barely felt like we knew what we were doing. Lots of weighing of the baby and waking up all through the night for feeds. Even though I wasnât needed for the nighttime feeds it helped my wife that I was getting up and calming the baby while my wife got ready for the feed.
Another thing that turned out to be essential was to buy the machine that you can use to make the bottles up. It saves so much time over boiling a kettle and waiting for the water to cook etc.
The early days really present lots of opportunities for anxiety to creep in because everything is new, and if sheâs messaging friends who have had babiesâŚ. Letâs just say the comparisons with how other babies are / were can be very unhelpful because people tend to forget, and also only share positive stories.
Anyway I hope my post is helpful for you. I donât want it to come across as me telling you to do x/y/z or to do even more. Maybe just look out for opportunities to try something different or help in a different way. And of course getting professional help (GP) as others have covered
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