Yeah but I think that was fairly obvious. Most people would read that and understand what Batty was meaning.
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No.
Some opinions are sometimes wrong.
Some opinions are sometimes not based on fact.
Every House has violence in it.
Guess what?
This one does not.
Depends on your version of violence. You were screaming and swearing in here at me and that author. That can be construed as attacking me (and her) and that is violence. Whether you agree with it or not.
Abuse is often the start of physical violence.
You are an annoying second cousin at best and you do not share this house.
Great use of humour to hide behind violence, well done, not another statistic.
We could keep going all night, but instead I will say goodbye because you will just keep justifying abuse.
Do you feel violated?
Do you really think she was talking about online discussions when she was talking about family violence?
Iāll clarify for the record, arcing up against the use of the word inhuman is fair enough.
This behaviour is very human and that needs to be accepted.
But thatās a loooooong way from suggesting itās normal.
Or suggesting that possibility exists in every home.
Because a man is there.
I know men arenāt allowed to be offended by much, but I can be farking offended by the suggestion that Iām a potential family murderer.
Doctor Strange could check every universe there is, he wonāt find one where I raise a hand to, let alone burn alive my wife and/or kid.
That ā ā ā ā is not helpful.
Men are not the only ones to practice abusive and violent behaviours towards their loved ones and others. Iāve worked in juvenile justice with both genders, menās prisons and womenās prisons and with some very violent women. And; some women would equal anything men do and then some. What concerns me is abusive language and violent behaviours have been normalised via tv programs, dvdās, magazines and the like. Add alcohol and drugs to that mix and its a recipe for disaster. What happens in prisons also happens outside them. It is only a microcosm of the macrocosm, each in own way, we are all responsible for our own behaviours and the language we speak.
As my Buddhist Lama Teachers says, we are in all this together, doing time.
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I accept that women are capable of doing awful things, too, but this is overwhelmingly a maleā¦I donāt know, I was going to say problem, issueā¦but I donāt want to negate the idea that the problems or issues extend far beyond men.
Point is that itās overwhelmingly men.
You can find exceptions in pretty much anything, butā¦if weāre serious about fixing these things then we need to be sexist.
Yes, sometimes women, overwhelmingly men.
Men (particularly older or right wing men) love arguing the semantics of these issues. āIm not a violent man, therefore stop blaming me!!!111ā etc.
Those sorts of discussions are dull and a waste of time and completely miss the point.
That point, of course, is that a lot of violence against women starts with a male sense of entitlement and ownership and superiority over women.
Now personally, I donāt feel or display any of those characteristics. I donāt hit my wife or daughter, I treat them equally and with the utmost respect, I donāt think that I own them or anything similar. But again, that doesnāt mean that Iām not somewhat, in some small part, a part of the problem.
Have I called my friends out every time they have made a sexist joke? No, particularly not when I was younger. Have I called it out when mates have spoken about women in a derogatory way, or made a random comment about a girl walking past that objectifies her? Sometimes, but not all the time. I try harder now, but you know what, Iām still not perfect in that area, despite being older and educated.
I think thatās the issue that as men, we need to confront. You might not be a psycho, but in some small way, you might be a small contributor to a societal view about women, that one psycho man may take to the extreme. Thatās the issue and thatās where everyone needs to stop being offended about tiny semantics and grow the fark up.
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Yeah.
It really does.
Donāt you people ever get tired of arguing semantics?
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Are you anti-semantic?
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Sepersontic.
Humans are basically trash, and the male of the species is generally capable of being (much) more trashy than the female.
Iāve been told that words matter.
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Decent men arenāt the problem. Itās the (very small) minority of evil, controlling psychopaths who think they are owed everything and believe their partners and children are their sole property.
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If you act as SMJ said, then you are Not the problem. You are a good example.
You are how youāre actually supposed to be.
Again, some perspective here.
We are talking about the terrorising and eventual murder of a manās loved ones.
Normalising that in any way is not helpful.
Accepting blame when you are blameless is not helpful.
Taking on blame because you have nuts Is Not Helpful.
This is abhorrent behaviour.
And that needs to be stopped.
Pretending that itās a little bit about you or accepting Absolute Garbage from someone else that itās about you Is Not Helpful.
Labelling them āevilā and āmonstersā, actually simplifies the problem.
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lol.
I raise the same objections to the first time it was posted.
Particularly to,
āFamily violence happens to everybody no matter how nice your house isā.
And,
āJournalists must produce content quickly. They have been reporting the story from the moment it happened, with only the information made available to them from the police, witnesses, social media and family.ā
One is wrong.
The other is gutless apologism.