I do try, to be honest, but every now and then you come across stuff, and it feels natural to try and ‘help’. I know it’s not actually helping.
With regards to the second bit - no, I disagree with you there. I don’t think putting a positive spin on things is ‘draining’, as such. Though I understand it can be annoying, maybe. The people you are calling ‘clappers’ by the way - are not idiots. When things aren’t going that well - they do know it. They just choose to be light-hearted about it.