So if you’ve read the mental health thread, you’d probably be aware that my ex-partner and I separated just over a year ago.
She has recently started dating and has a new boyfriend. They celebrated their 1 month anniversary on Friday (because apparently they are both still in Grade 9)
I have indicated that I want to meet this guy before I will even consider this guy meeting our kids.
Now given they have been dating only a month you might wonder why this would be a problem.
Apparently they consider it normal and appropriate for him to meet her kids after only dating for a month and she is now pressuring me to meet him, obviously so she can then introduce him to the kids.
Now I obviously figured that if she started dating again and formed a serious relationship that the kids would have to meet this person at some stage, but I never really thought about at what stage in the relationship that would be.
I certainly did not think it would rear it’s head within a month of the relationship first starting.
I don’t have any friends who have gone through this sort of thing, so I thought I would ask if any of you have separated after having children and then re-partnered, when did you introduce your kids from your previous relationship to your new partner?
I should not that I only relented and told her she could even tell the kids about this guy this week, because she was pressuring me about that. She told them yesterday. We have two special need kids (ASD) and one of them was upset about being told about the boyfriend and she won’t tell either of us why. I suspect that is because she does not know how to verbalise it.
Anyway one day after telling the kids and having one of them react badly to it, she is now pressuring me about meeting the guy so she can then introduce the kids to him.
I’m sure it is purely about being able to see this guy as much as possible and being to see him even when she has the kids, rather than thinking it is the best thing for the kids.
I sceptical that she won’t just introduce him to kids when I’m not around anyway. I mean she told our 13-year-old daughter about him after about 2 weeks even though I had asked her not to tell any of the kids yet. She then lied to my face about it saying that my daughter had figured it out for herself and asked her about it.