I am about to go and have a serious "sorry but we are going to have to let you go" discussion with one of my team. The performance is bad, people don't want to work with this person, and despite 6 months of feedback there has been no change. Regardless, I am so incredibly torn. This is a person's livelihood.
Which brings me to what we all have to do to earn a living. And is this whole new age philosophy of “Do what you love” a pipe dream? I mean my dad came from abject poverty and worked insane hours to provide for his family. He did everything he could including working tirelessly 6-7 days a week to get a PhD, rise through the corporate ranks, and be a success. He never had the luxury of “doing what he loved” which would have been working as a micro-biologist.
Is 50 hours of emails, meetings, deadlines all there is to it and we should just accept it?
Oh, I like this thread already.
I’m going through something similar at the moment. I’m in a good job, one that I’m capable of doing well, and it pays well. It’s not stressful, there’s no weekend work, my boss is good to me, the people are good, and I only have a couple of direct reports. By any measure, I feel like I’m doing pretty well for myself. Particularly as I have basically learned everything I know on the job. No formal training, no education - I’ve got there through sheer ■■■■■■ mindedness and hard work.
I’m bored as batshit with my job. It’s not challenging, and I don’t feel any great sense of really loving going to work.
However, I have a mortgage, 2 kids, and a wife who works part time, I don’t have the luxury of “chasing my dream’” or “doing what I love”. They rely on me putting food on the table, and keeping a roof over their heads. If I was to do what I love, I’d be chasing a career in the media, or sucking at being a stand up comedian - and neither of those are a)entirely possible in rural/regional Australia, or b) stable environments.
I think to follow your dreams, and chase your passions - you need to identify them and start the process early enough - before you go and make life altering decisions like getting married, having kids, and buying a house. Those are big commitments and responsibilities - and while I am in no way unhappy with those aspects of my life - I do sometimes wonder how different it would have been had I waited 5-10 years.
The problem is identifying your dreams and passions early enough to choose the right uni course, meet the right people etc - how many of us truly know what we want to do at the age of 17. I certainly didn’t. Hell, I’m 34 now and I’m still not 100% sure I know what I want to do with my life - other than be a good dad and husband, and keep the banks off my back.
TL;DR - No. I don’t think “doing what you love” for a career is a pipe dream. It’s not unattainable. But I think it gets harder the more responsibility/commitment you have in your life.